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Do you think there is pure friendship between men and women?
Tell us your opinion. Thanks.

No... there is nothing... indifference or hatred.

Love or hatred, all or nothing... badly many people think so.

Shokin

I think there really might be if one of them is not straight...

I think so.
My best friend is a girl and she also loves a man who is older than me.
Friendship is forever. It's so wonderful to have and confide sth in your best friend who is the opposite sex with you.

Yeah, I think so too. I mean about having a friend that is opposite sex even though I am not entirely sure if that can work out 100%. I do love having lots of guy friends but I never treat them like my real serious friends but more like good mates to hang out and have fun with. I think it's so much better than going out shopping with girls lol ;p

yes , I do think so , there is pure friendship between men and women , espacially if they are working in the same sphere .

Hi

I think so there is pure friendship between men and women but that not in my country

sabreena wrote:Hi

I think so there is pure friendship between men and women but that not in my country

why ?

im just imagining a women telling to her best friend.. you know what, i would like so much to have sex today, i dont i just would love it... but i guess i cant find the right guy and of course i dont wanna ruin our friendship, so between us its completely out question

Rui wrote:im just imagining a women telling to her best friend.. you know what, i would like so much to have sex today, i dont i just would love it... but i guess i cant find the right guy and of course i dont wanna ruin our friendship, so between us its completely out question

:D :D Hahahah you're so funny!!! :P :P :P :D :D

Rui wrote:im just imagining a women telling to her best friend.. you know what, i would like so much to have sex today, i dont i just would love it... but i guess i cant find the right guy and of course i dont wanna ruin our friendship, so between us its completely out question

Why do you always think of sex, Rui? Are you lacking something? :D:D:D

I want to come back to this topic and ask you..
do u think men and woman can be platonic friends?
in my opinion it's hardly possible! especially among young people, who have a lot of crazy ideas every minute ;> [i know about it from experience ]
young boy who is in love with young girl thinks about her all the time and if she doesn't want to be with him, he won't be her friend. that'll be probably the end of this acquaintance ;> this kind of friendship is very complicated.
..Let's get these teen hearts beating faster, faster

illusion wrote:

Rui wrote:im just imagining a women telling to her best friend.. you know what, i would like so much to have sex today, i dont i just would love it... but i guess i cant find the right guy and of course i dont wanna ruin our friendship, so between us its completely out question

Why do you always think of sex, Rui? Are you lacking something? :D:D:D

Take a look at a womans' body. It is perfectly made for sex. Why think about anything else when with a woman?

If you wanna find an answer to this question, you should see the movie "when Harry meet Sally" starring by Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan.... There is a part in the movie when Sally asks Harry this question and he says: "Men and women can not be friends because sex always will be interfering.... we´re always thinking about sex, and it´s a matter of time when it will screw the friendship up.." Or maybe that episode of "Seinfield" where Jerry and Elaine had to have sex to save their friendship....

My point is that, in some point, one of them is going to think about sex... I believe the key to a friendship between a man and a woman last depend on how they manage to deal with that issue.....

danyet wrote:

illusion wrote:

Rui wrote:im just imagining a women telling to her best friend.. you know what, i would like so much to have sex today, i dont i just would love it... but i guess i cant find the right guy and of course i dont wanna ruin our friendship, so between us its completely out question

Why do you always think of sex, Rui? Are you lacking something? :D:D:D

Take a look at a womans' body. It is perfectly made for sex. Why think about anything else when with a woman?

come on guysss!!!!!!!have a little bit respect toward girls!!!!

exactly! ;> woman aren't meant only for boy's fantasy, sex in only a part of relationship between woman and men (yesss, very important ans pleasant part, but not the most important;])

i think(ther is no frinshipe between them).
The frindshipe will be true after they get married.
And the frindshipe between girl and boy is not recommend 'cause [size=18]the evil [/size]well be the 3ed in there frindshipe.

Men and women can be best friend :D ! I have many mele friends and they very good with me. They also have girl friend. I think that sex is not important in the friendship of men and women . Are you think what I'm thinking?

: :) Yes, but you can't achieve pure friendship overnight. We take care of this and protect if we must.

melek wrote:

danyet wrote:

illusion wrote:
Why do you always think of sex, Rui? Are you lacking something? :D:D:D

Take a look at a womans' body. It is perfectly made for sex. Why think about anything else when with a woman?

come on guysss!!!!!!!have a little bit respect toward girls!!!!

Uncle wants to have sex right now.

in my countery the relationship between men and women is forbbiden at all i do not know why they say cuz. of traditions i really wish to broke this law but in my opionion it will take years in my homeland to have a pure freindship between men and women cuz. all relations now are interesting on body and sex.


cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers

Don't have sex before marriage, dear.

DONOT WORRY ABOUT THAT UNCLE

i decide not maarige till i find who desrive me and i find but we face many problems we do not know how to solve



cheeeeeeeeeeers

[quote"sweets"]in my countery the relationship between men and women is forbbiden at all i do not know why they say cuz. of traditions i really wish to broke this law.[/quote]

Are you from Iran or China ?

Dear Xkalibur.

This uncle is from Indonesia.

It doesn't matter where my child, Sweets, is from.

Is Sweets from Iran, or China, or Africa, or nowhere?

That's not the point.

The point is : do not you dare to make fun of Sweets, or fool or mock Sweets or even hurt my child's heart.

Bear in mind !!!


Warm regards
Uncle B.

well iam form arabian country thank u uncle for this speech :)


cheeeeeeeeeeers

I think a relationship betweet men and women can work when both, the man and the woman, make an effort . sometimes you have to work really hard on it - but in which relationship you don't have to do that?

In my opinion men should waste less thoughts on sex and everything will work - no, just kidding.

And do we always have to fall in love with our mates? I don't think so, cause there can also be a bond without 'really deep feelings' and sex . definitely .

It's nice to know you!
I think probable result! :D
It is easy　to talk for me.
Because it is a friend of the other sex
I think not to have friendship to do with sex.

Yes, that a pure frienship should be everlasting during we can keep this friendship, without distinguish between men and women, because God created men as partner for women.

Go..... friendship between us.

well to me i find it possible to have this kind of friendship coz i already have, but i guess in my own country it's hard for some ppl to believe in that or at least keep it for along time, that's y the relationship usually shifts to deal with other issues such as love, sex..etc ending to the break up in some cases.

SuMoNe wrote:well to me i find it possible to have this kind of friendship coz i already have, but i guess in my own country it's hard for some ppl to believe in that or at least keep it for along time, that's y the relationship usually shifts to deal with other issues such as love, sex..etc ending to the break up in some cases.

yeah true ,

when friendship takes another way " love , sex etc '

we can't say it's pure ,aren't we ?

Najlooolah wrote:

SuMoNe wrote:well to me i find it possible to have this kind of friendship coz i already have, but i guess in my own country it's hard for some ppl to believe in that or at least keep it for along time, that's y the relationship usually shifts to deal with other issues such as love, sex..etc ending to the break up in some cases.

yeah true ,

when friendship takes another way " love , sex etc '

we can't say it's pure ,aren't we ?

Nope, not anymore ..& it's gonna b hard 2 fix it up

I'm a woman. Most of my close friends are men. And I really find no difficulty to get on well with them.
A pure friendship between a man and a woman is quite common, i think there are no problem if we identify and do our best to maintain it.

yes, I truly think that a real friendship might exist between a man and a woman. Why not?
sometimes it's easier to trust a person of the opposite sex and you can find a different approach to deal with subjects.
In my opinion true friendship doesn't distinguish sexes but feelings.

I dont think so if there can be good friendship between a man and a woman. As if you leave them alone in a room the only point you will be attracted to is that (...). So that friendship doesnt mean alot, if it is only for a purpose.

Yes, I think it can exist and when it happens is better than between people of the same sex.

that's a hard one, i have really good male friends that i must admit i considered dating more than once. when you find someone who clicks with you so well to be a close friend of the opposite sex its hard not to be attracted. i guess it all depends on how far one will take the attraction and weigh what is more important.

maybe such a platonic relationship does exist but just based on my own experience, its a feat.

Xavia wrote:Do you think there is pure friendship between men and women?
Tell us your opinion. Thanks.

I wish I am a man then I could answer this, but I can share my opinion.

Nothing is impossible in this world. I guess the conflict between men and women started from the old teachings of our forefathers. The battle between a man and a woman is very obvious even at present... other people forgot to consider that people who belong to the same gender has it's own battle too and possibly be using the opposite sex as a front to win their own fight. If this is not corrected I guess pure friendship is impossible... but time is changing men and women alike is becoming more literate now. They are learning how to judge by their own and freeing themselves from the cell of the old tips or counsel... I guess, it's not impossible... there are lucky ones whom I believe found themselves in this kind of friendship.
Good luck!

I think it is a feat to have a friendship with a person of the opposite sex. I haven't experienced it...it is too hard. A friend is not a colleage that's why this is a short way to love.

Naturally men and woman feel attraction each other, but pure friendship are rare. Mostly we are attract each other for our physical requirement.

maybe. Honestly speaking, even if my friend is a female I cannot understand why for some reasons they believe on what they hear and follow their wrong feelings so I guess friendship with the opposite sex is just the same.

illusion wrote:I think there really might be if one of them is not straight...

exactly !!!

Oh, yes! Why not? I do believe in a friendship between a man and a woman, but if they get to close and like each other, there will be something else ( that's normal and human). But honestly, there is friendship between them.

Yes, it's possible. :

Krisi wrote:maybe. Honestly speaking, even if my friend is a female I cannot understand why for some reasons they believe on what they hear and follow their wrong feelings so I guess friendship with the opposite sex is just the same.

I think,

Isn't it possible to pure friendship get along with pure love? Imagine the dialogue between two kids: "You're cute! If I were big I would marry you. What is your name? May I play in your sandbox?" - "Thank you. If I were big I'd say that I need to think about it. Elisabeth. It's not my sandbox, it's for everybody, but I don't mind you to play here too!"

I think you can have pure friendship towards another sex. It's great because you can talk to him/her about anything and get advice from another gender's point of view. It would be hard not to fall for the other though, as in most cases of boy and girl as best friends, one is almost always bound to fall for the other. But if it's just pure friendship, I think it's possible. It would be hard but not impossible.

my point of view if , because I have a best friend and so far so good

It is very hard question but I think yes. There is pure friendship between men and women.
In most cases it is very hard to do because one of them usually fall in love. Close contact between men and women often ends with some kinds of love. But I know that is possible to have very good friend as a men or women and it is only friendship.

not sure!