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Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?

As far as I am concerned, babies and toddlers may not rememeber things vividly.But they do have the ability to sense things around them.They could tell the affection and caring. Any sweet whispers, gentle strokes and tiptoed movements.If they grew up in a loving family, they became secure and confident.These things will have vital impact on their furture life.

It does matter how we treat babies and toddlers even though they don't remember anything because it shows how "human" we are. And I totally agree with Sandra .

Did you read TP new homework about the piano man? So, what's the answer or the end of that story?

now i have a baby, i think i should give my son all the love i have.

Yan999 wrote:now i have a baby, i think i should give my son all the love i have.

Good for you .

I have no baby, so not an expert But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.

sandra wrote:I have no baby, so not an expert But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.

Me neither. But I did see my nephew coming out when his mom was giving birth to him. Then I did babysit him everyday for his first two years. Now I'm his favorite aunt . When he cries or is being stubborn, no one can tell him to stop except his parents or me. Thus, kids can't remember their first two years, but they can sense who loves them and who don't. If they feel neglected, they won't grow up with healthy emotions.

well of course it matters because the babies behaviors will reflex our treatment wether it is good or bad and believe it or not babies save all the bad treatments that they received in the past in thier mind and then this will be reflexed in thier behaviors in the future and ithink that if we are not able to treat these small inocent todlers in a very compation way , if we didn't have the mercy to give them we will not be able to give them this mercy when they grow up therefore they will not give thier babies in the future this good treatment either

Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....

My goodness what a terrible heading "Does it matter how we treat babies". I'm not going to take this the wrong way; but it would be easy to.

Even lions look after their young! Of course it matters. The first few years of a childs life creates trust. If you treat a child badly in the first few years of their life; they won't trust you. If you treat a child with love and kisses, cuddles etc, they will respond that way with you long after infancy. Trust me I know. I have seen both sides of the scale.

There are also studies that have proven that children that are read bed-time stories prior to school entry do better at reading and writing. There is something to be said about a young mind. They are sponges; absorbing everything around them and storing it away.

LennyeTran wrote:

shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....

I don-t remember.

Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.

What is the goal of the question ?

Shokin

shokin wrote:

LennyeTran wrote:

shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....

I don-t remember.
Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.
What is the goal of the question ?

Shokin

I dare to say 99% of the children do not remember their first two years of life. And if yes, we only remember the most significant ones; therefore, treating babies badly will create a bad memory for them. And also making them lose their trust to other human beings. On the other hand, the bottom line of this topic is not whether babies remember their memories of their first two years, it's about parents' responsibilities. Just think and assume for once, if you could not love your baby enough to treat him/her nicely, would you love him/her when your child grow up to understand your reactions towards him/her?

http://www.talkingpage.org/artic012.html#MEM
According to this website, "Although memory improves throughout childhood, important developmental changes take place during the preschool years. Just as with perspective taking, a major advance in memory abilities seems to begin at about 4 or 5 years when children start to recall items of some complexity and when they begin to monitor and manipulate them own memories." This is for my assumption that majority of children do not remember their first two years.
On the other hand, there is a small minority of children do remember their first two years; however, only the the significant ones. My cousin is an example. She once said she still remembered the time when my aunt's daughter kicked her face. My aunt was so surprised because my cousin was only two at time, and she never talked about it until the day my cousin mentioned it. The story is about whe they were taking a shower together, and my cousin wanted to touch her stomach to see how the baby was doing inside. She got a kick in the face instead . She said she hated babies from that day on until the day my other cousin was born. She told us she loved babies again because the other cousin was so cute. This is all she could remember what happened when she was two.

Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

shokin wrote:Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

Is it a necessity to ask un-necessity questions?

Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

And for our collectivity, for the nature ? and not for our personal comfort !

Shokin

JeanneM wrote:Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

Exactly.

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?

I think it is very importance for the way we treat babies and toddlers.
We think that we cannot remember anything from the first one or two years of our lievs because we try to remember or list all the events that happened when we were child. Actually, we still keep some feeling that can't explain clearly. I can see if the baby is treated with full of love everyday, when grownth up he will be a good people and must be a kindness.
Do you agree with me?

In my opinion it´s important to treat babies very well cause the behavior´s babies will reflect according the treatment.

We have to treat everyone very well.

Are we becoming nasty ? we all are friends.

Shokin

Sorry, IMHO, this topic is very laughable and meaningless.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Very true, we all can't remember our 1-2 first years, so are our babies. but remember! NO parents would NOT treat their babies kindly and with all their lives and love!

It isn't about whether-we-should-do-so, but about we-naturally-do-so!

When my daughter was about 1-2 years old, she was a true trouble-maker! she peed on my clean clothes, and sometimes when I was so tired and fell asleep, she wakened me with her nails scratching on my cheeks; I couldn't get a full-night sleep during her first 1-2 years. and yes, it didn't matter whether I treated her well, because she wouldn't remember anything if I treated her in a terrible way. however, It would be IMPOSSIBLE for me NOT to treat her well! that is what we call parents! absolute love for kids, no reason! just nature!

shazzam1452 wrote:My goodness what a terrible heading "Does it matter how we treat babies". I'm not going to take this the wrong way; but it would be easy to.

Even lions look after their young!

That's a saying to expect a woman to be a good mother, but you know for sure there are mothers out there who are worst than monsters. They either emotionally or physically abuse their kids since the day they were born because those kids were not wanted at all. It's so sad.

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?

Of course, It really matters. When child is born, he is unaware of the sorroundings. The mother's lap is like a school for him where he can learn the ABC of life. He needs guidence from everyone. He/she can go about anything merely by holding your finger. In a cosequence, he can remember what he is taught. We had better treat the child with love and kindness and in this way he can grow up with required environement.

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?

We should respect everyone 'coz we are equal. How can ignore the natural right of babies and toddlers?
Another point is that babies have curiosity of everything. And that's a good time for young parents to establish a good relationship with their children.

I think treatments with babes is important, because babes can learn everything fastly, and may be your treatment will influent on them. babes don't know how wrong is or true, so they just learn and imitate everything people treat them.
Be careful! I'm not sure, but that's my idea.
Thanks.

I think that's important how we treat a baby and what we did in front of him/her. When a baby is older, it can't remember what happened when it was a baby. But, the first impression we made for it surely affect to its conception. Example, when we always let a baby see the money we have, when he's old, and he know about the value of money, he'll always think: my parents always have much money, and he'll depend on his parents

I think that all parents and babysisters should treat babies and toddlers the best they can do.
All babies need these; food, warm, and love. And I think almost people know about psychology. Our subconciousness has developed from this period, first 1-2 year of life.
Even though we can't remember what really happened during that time, but this doesn't mean we can ignore our children. It's not related!
Who is the first babies run to when they cry? Who is the first babies hug when they fear? Who is the first babies smile when they see? And Who is the first can stop they crying?
This is why we need to treat them well.
In fact, I don't have my own baby yet. But I know that a family is a basic element. And this element is very important. If we don't have families, we can't survive until today. We may die as soon as we born. And we might not be like this, if we didn't be treated well when we were young.
Thank you.

I once heard a story about an orphanage where something very weird was going on in the babies' room. It was a room filled with cribs, one next to another. For months, the orphanage staff observed that the babies that slept in the last crib of the row grew up healthier and happier. Why did that happen? What was wrong with that crib?

Well the answer was simple: every night, after the maid had finished her task, she would rest by the last crib, and talk and caress the baby in it.

I think it is very significant subjet & it must be taken in our consideration, due to its greatest importance. There is no doubt , babies are our future , through them we hope to accomplish our dreams, ambitions & aims, that we had no opportunity to achieve them. Babies are our delightful God's gift,& the successful end of our life. They will complete our life messge to maintain our traditions, beliefs, & moralities from one generation to another,which enable them to do the best for their families & their homelands.They are our young future & we proudly see our glorious future through them.

TalkingPoint wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?

Baby child is so vulnerable, we must treat them very carefully, even though, they might not remember what happened to him in his 1 - 2 years old.

Of course it matters the way we treat and teach our sons. Let me just ask you something. Would you like to be treatted nice and with love or would you like to be mistreatted or would you like to be abuse by someone. Babies, eventhough they can not express themsleve they have feelings and they undestand what happend at their enviroment.

So of course it matter and we should all take care of our babies and of the childs.

i think they don't sense what's good or bad for them but they can feel what make them comfortable or uncomfortable

I am a mother of a six month years old baby now. You don't know that how clever they are. They use their clear eyes to watch what is going on around them. They smile to you if you treat them in a kind way, them cry if you do any bad things to them. Maybe they really can not remember thing at their early age, but it not means we can treat them as we like, right? How come if you have pet dog or cat? They can not speak also, but you can treat them bad? No!!!right, you will love them.

sandra wrote:I have no baby, so not an expert But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.

Having a baby does not make you an expert. Were that true, we wouldn't have so many broken families in the world.

I remember seeing and listening to many experts on the matter saying that the most important years in a person's life are the first 5 years, because during these years the person builds up his/her personality, which is very very important to suceed in any society.

Also, I remember this news I saw about a year ago, where this hospital where twins were born very early, and they noticed a baby was not doing so well. The nurse decided to put both babies in the same machine... she was thinking that perhaps the company of the little bother could help the sick one.

I was very surprising to see how the little baby improved his health. And it was amazing to see the little brother's support: he usually "hugged" his brother by putting his arms just above his brother's chest... sort of like cheering him up.

Ain't it touching?

TalkingPoint wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?

First : We think that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives , but in reality we remember that by doing something which is related to our mind ...( my teacher said that xD ) so , it really matters how we treat babies and toddlers .

ps: sorry my english is poor

sure it's really matter how we treat babies
and toddlers?
I think we all teart babies and toddlers with a different way
these differences have an impact on how good the experience of childhood is
so if u want a good person u have to prepare this person from the beginning u have to treat him very well u have to respect him from the beginnig.

Do you do it for the babies or for your reputation ?

Hey, baby ! wash the dishes, clean the kitchen, bring me my beer. (mouarf)

You do it to be happy, not for your social image.



Shokin

yes, we should. This is the stage of one's life where he/she adapts well to the environment. We may not know, but don't we realize why a baby or toddler understands the language fast? I think this is the time where we are most brilliant. So whatever was instilled to the baby's mind will retain in him..

it really does!!

you know, if you treat your babies in a way that is not acceptable from a genuine mother to do.... cuz you know, your babies might grow up to obtain an over rude behavior, and that certainly based on the way you treated them.. but if you did the exact opposit, you won't be a bit sorry for, cuz they will present their comunity in the future, for sure as you taught them... besides, they will be decent once that you could be proud of, and, too, they will be proud of having such coool mother such as you...

there are a lot to say about this issue.. but you know i don't like to enlarge the topic cuz your question is specified... actually i did

thanx 4 ur ask

Yours Ahmed

of course it's important, in the minute the baby born we have to treat him/her a good treatment, becaue he/she understands us and aware of what's going on around him/her, besides, from that moment he/she starts to perceive and absorb what he sees and hears. each day he/she learns aomething new and us who teach him/her.

I don't have a baby yet :) but I always taking care of my cousin's babies when she can't handled them in sametime..I think its great experience so I know how to take care baby someday, watching them grow up.

It is of great impotance. I may not remember but I can imagine my birth have been born in the living room of our home infront of a warm coal fire. I do remember sitting in my pram in the front garden and being admired by passers by. I was often asked the time and it was always ten to two. I also remember being persuaded to throw my dummy on the fire, but I might have been about 10 by then. He he!.
The ones who cared for me most in those early years and those friendly people who passed by have remained friends and favoured relatives.

If parents love their children they treat them accordingly no matter if children are one yaer old or three years old. Of course adequate parents change the way they treat their boys and girls when the latter become teenagers.

Yes offcourse, The babies always learn from every step we take whether that is in happiness or anger they learn from us. So what ever we react directly affects them and they also try to implement those points in their lives

yes,it really matters.I agree with hedwig14.it is most important and precious movement where they learn quickly than other stages of life.

yes, our way of treating babies play role on building their personality.

sandra wrote:As far as I am concerned, babies and toddlers may not rememeber things vividly.But they do have the ability to sense things around them.They could tell the affection and caring. Any sweet whispers, gentle strokes and tiptoed movements.If they grew up in a loving family, they became secure and confident.These things will have vital impact on their furture life.

Hello Sandra,
You have a good point of them. Indeed, I did not grow up in a loving family, so your message is especially important to me. =)