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Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.

What do YOU think?

Yes.

Of course, they should help and look after their parents unless they don't like them.

I've met some people who said that their parents were very important people to them. And it was quite clear that those guys were going to take care of their parents.

And I know people who, sadly, do not feel anything towards their parents or one of their parents. Sometimes they even dislike them. For instance it might be caused by the fact that their parents divorced when they were very young and one of parents did'd take any part in their upbringing and actually behaved as if he or she didn't love them. Or one of them was an alcoholic. It happens from time to time. As a result there is no connection between a child and a parent. I'm not surprised that in this case elderly parents or one of them didn't receive any attention. It seems cruel but it results from the other cruelty.

Grown up children should take care of their parents in return. Because who raise them, who teach them right from wrong, who give them love and protect them when they was just little chidren who don't have enough ability to avoid temptation and risk.Moreover, where we are from ? Who give them the previledge to exist in the world. This is their obligation to take care of their parents

Of course ,we must take care of our parents when they turn old .And also ,we should accompany them when they feel loney .on our way to mutul and success ,our parents have given us everthing whatever they have .It will be forever not enough that we do for them .I love my parents for ever .

When our parents are too old and can't take care of themselves and we as children should take care of them.
As humans we need to be thankful and filial.The basic morality we need to fulfill is to take care of our parents , not only that, we also need to forgive and condone whatever they couldn't provide.....or mistakes they had done.... or else these old people will suffer at their old-age with nobody cares for them.
We will be getting old too, we must set good examples for our children to see, learn and inculcate the good value in them. Hopefullly this example will be inculcated in their mind and they'll look after us when we are old.
Of course we can't predict what'll happen when we are old,as life is really uncertain, but at least we set the good example to educate them that taking care of old parents is the right /good way to practise, as children we should take care of old parents .
Alike a business investment, this is a humans' morality invesment, win or loss nobody can assure, but is a good investment!!!

i think we should take care of them just becuase of the fact that they gave us life. I understand some parents aren't what they are supposed to be and that some sons and daugthers don't feel like they should take care of them because of that, so i guess we can't apply one answer to everybody.

Also there are different ways of taking care, i could be economicly or moraly. I think the hardest is to take care of them moraly because it might keep you from living your own life but if they did it for us, why shouldn't we do it for them.

Undoubtly we should take care of our elder parents.And our parents need our care.

First, our parents spend all their energy and time to bring us up from a little baby. With the growing of the children, they become older and older. They need more help in the daily life. Our children has this responsibility to do it.

Second, human is a advanced animal,which is social.
Then people become elder, they want more affection and accompany, They hope all their children can sit around them.

Third, with the rapid development of economic, the competition is severe, there is a heavy burden on the new generation's shoulder. So many elder people don't want to give more burden to their children, so they perfer to live alone.

whatever happen, our young people should do what we should do, Don't forget we are someone's children too. Affection is the most important in everybody's life.

We are human. We are have a heart. So we must do it.

davidtinglon wrote: It will be accused by the people and punished by law if one does't take good care of there parents.

Just out of curiosity, what kind of punishment is there in China for not caring about your own parents? Is it possible to be sentensed to prison? Or is it just a fine? Could you tell me, please.

In my opinion, they have to do that coz' they have been given many from their parents...

meylenlau wrote:As humans we need to be thankful and filial.The basic morality we need to fulfill is to take care of our parents , not only that, we also need to forgive and condone whatever they couldn't provide.....or mistakes they had done.... or else these old people will suffer at their old-age with nobody cares for them.
We will be getting old too, we must set good examples for our children to see, learn and inculcate the good value in them. Hopefullly this example will be inculcated in their mind and they'll look after us when we are old.
Of course we can't predict what'll happen when we are old,as life is really uncertain, but at least we set the good example to educate them that taking care of old parents is the right /good way to practise, as children we should take care of old parents .
Alike a business investment, this is a humans' morality invesment, win or loss nobody can assure, but is a good investment!!!

I am glad to see your answer.I really touched by your answer.I don't like my father,because he is very selfish.After watching your answer ,i review what my father have done past is for our good,my little brother and me.He became easy to lose temper after fail in the businee .In fact ,he suffered a lot from the life ,and the life treated him unfairly .My father 's job is very tough ,most of his job is underwater.Even in the cold winter night ,he have to go to make the living in the sea .When ever think of this ,my eyes always feel tearing .Yeah ,we should hold a thankful and condoned heart in return to our parents 'trouble in fostering us.It is your parents bring you to this world .

I'm completely agree with the most of opinions here,
I think we must take care of and respect them...

Sure! We all must not only obey and respect our elderly parents but also do anything to satisfy their minds. Of course not all of their thoughts are quite right in every circumtances. And we have lots of chances of exchanges view with them for best solutions based on our respect and obedience.
However, our respectful attitudes towards them sometimes make them feel self-pity. For example the way you support them could cause them to think that as if they were useless. I saw many similar cases occuring in Saigon where most of elderly people sent to old-age institutions and their decendants visit them weekly or monthly.
Eldery parents dont need sufficient and comfortable condition. All in all, the elders often feel to be lonely and the less peolpe talk to them, the more the elders feel loneliness overwhelmingly.
Living in the noisy and hustling society,we seem to have less choices in taking care of our elder parents in the very right way. Perhaps it's still entirely up to our own situations in each concrete ones.
I also want to get more small points. Man obedient to the elders (or Superior) would know what the leader and hero is. The order in the society always claims a proper obedience. In other words, if you disrespect or abandon your elderly parents it would be a very terrible catastrophe for yourself and the greatest crime in human consciousness that is committed. It would also be the road leading to the chaos and upset in society.

We all have kind wishes. We want our parents to live a heath, well-off and happy life. No children want their parents to suffer. But for the young, it's even hard to feed themselves nowadays! To make a living, most young people works over 10 hours a day. Yet they are looking for part-time jobs because the salary is not enough to pay the rent. Their hometown is far away from the city where jobs can be found. Going home to see their parents will cost a large deal of money. They miss their parents, but all they can do is phone home or write letters.

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wllsp wrote:

davidtinglon wrote: It will be accused by the people and punished by law if one does't take good care of there parents.

Just out of curiosity, what kind of punishment is there in China for not caring about your own parents? Is it possible to be sentensed to prison? Or is it just a fine? Could you tell me, please.

Feeding old parents is child's duty. But children do not have to take care of their parents themselves, just financial support is enough.

i completely agree that we have to take care our parent . but should we take care them by ourself ?, that mean we live with them , meet them everyday , or can we send them to a center of old people , and we visit them every week ?

aldorado wrote:i completely agree that we have to take care our parent . but should we take care them by ourself ?, that mean we live with them , meet them everyday , or can we send them to a center of old people , and we visit them every week ?

Yes, this is a very important question, to my mind. My family and I are living with my parents-in-law now. This is because it's rather difficult to buy or rent a flat (nor a house) in our city. We do not quarrel, actually, but it's too little space and too many people living together, to be happy with this. And they are not even my parents, but my husband's. Anyway, I don't think we will sometimes be able to send them to a center for old people or so, just be cause I wouldn't happily married with my husband if they had not born him 36 years ago. I feel gratitude to them for him and for my children (since my mother-in-law is my babysitter who allows me working without worries about them).

My parents mean very much to me,especially my grandma.I love them very much.I'll take good care of them.

sure they have to do.parents look after their children till they become men and women so they have to do this for them,and even if the some parents dont take care about their chilldren but they have to be good people and do the right thing or the natural thing

[quote="TalkingPoint"][b]Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.[/b]

What do YOU think?[/quote]
of course,We must take care of them.It is our responsible,have no other choice.we should share our time with thme.

crystalfrogw wrote:surely...
only animals will leave when they grow up instead of take care of their parents.
but we are human beings knowing that we should repay our parents' love.......

My dear friends.
How about a father who didn't want to admit his child because he was not sure if the child was his biological child. He thought that the child was a reasult of affair between his wife and her boybriend???

BOGINYA wrote:I consider, that children have to take care of their old parents.

Of course, we must to care about our parents, but many countries have a special institutions for care about them. In Russua, for example, every man must to care about own parents. Besides it, the government care about the elderly people. But a level of their life is very low.
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did you guys all come from the same playground? nice to meet you here anyway

Welcome, Russians.

ofcourse, and it's not enough. the only way where we can rapay our parents is when we have children of our own. we should have that sense of gratitude to them.

So, but what about an elderly people, who can't cares about themselves and what relatives don't want to care about them? Does the government have to care about them and would it really do it?

bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.

Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...

Konstantin wrote:

bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.

Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...

Oh you snob! Don't want to bother you with my poor and humble knowledge of English, but tell, please, where have you all come from? Seems like your teacher has discovered this web-site and you joined successfully

Tora, this things usually discusses in a private messages! :D :D :D
But special for you: I'm from Voljsky, it's under Volgograd. :) I always want to speak English with real people, who live in englishword counties. But I speak very bad...
So! If people have only one parent, what do they must to do? If one of parents left family many times ago? Not dead, but left!

Ded wrote:There are many children in our country whom have one parent. How do you think, must they care about his or her one parent(mother or father), who has grown his child all his life better or not?

I think - yes. If you really love your one parent, you have to care about him, if he needs for it.

If we find happiness in caring for others why can't we to our own parents. However, (I think) this cannot be carried out as a law because it is very depressing to the elderly if the child is unwilling. (Instead of living longer ... you know what I mean, don't you? )

Be honest, it's quite controdictory. My personal experience is I did took after my Mom very well as she raised me up very hardly. I appreciate her a lot and nothing can describe how I'm grateful for her. But, ironically, I did nothing to my Dad as he never took his responsibility to the family when I was a child. His behavior hurt me a lot....

spaintaiwan wrote:Be honest, it's quite controdictory. My personal experience is I did took after my Mom very well as she raised me up very hardly. I appreciate her a lot and nothing can describe how I'm grateful for her. But, ironically, I did nothing to my Dad as he never took his responsibility to the family when I was a child. His behavior hurt me a lot....

But, he still is your father.

Yeah of course that we need to look after for our parents.Cuz only they cared for us,didn`t sleep at night for us,creid when we cried,smiled when me smiled,only they were happy when we were,only they were angry when we were angry.It`s our task to love them,to care for them and to look after for them cuz they are the best gift that God can send to a child.In my country 98 % or 99% of boys look after their parents,it`s a custom.

offspring wrote:I think that looking after elderly parents is a kind of appreciation for their effort to bring us up. Undoubtedly they sacrificed a lot during our growing up.
In addition, the day we will need our children's help is not so far. Therefore the personal example to our own children is the best way to teach them to take care for us later.

I couldn't agree more.

we must

yup..they really should.. it's the best way to return what they have done for us when we were younger.

Do you know when a man understands the real inner feelings of an elderly person or an aged person? When he himself become an aged person. Here I have mentioned words like man or himself which are also refering to a woman.Yes.Very few can understand the trauma what he goes through in his ripe-age or advanced age. For example a son realises his father's frustration when he's neglected by him when his son neglects him when he turns old. And this goes on and on generation after generation.Then what is the solution for this indifferent attitude? Should parents expect their children to look after them when they turn old?
You have to take me as an example. I'm in early fifties.Eventhough this is not an age to depend on children but even at the later stage I do not wish to depend on anybody that includes even my children. I even feel I will be disturbing them. Instead Ipray to God that let him bless me with good health and make me work till the last day of my life! One might ask me whether it is possible? My answer is BIG YES. Your mind is your age.There are many things you can do where you require mental strength not your physical strength. Your education also come handy. Dear Parents depend on yourseves and teach the same to your children. But one important factor don't foget. You have to keep yourself healthy. Shall we prove this to the world dear parents ?
SNAZZY FROM INDIA

Of course. The grown-up children should look after their parents. As parents spend much time and energy in companying with their kids, especially in China. From a little small baby to a adult, parents contributes all the things that they cherish to their childrens.

I think it is akind of duty , coz they spent their life looking after us when we were children.we should return apiece of what they gave us.

I feel sorry and pity when I saw senior ppl living by themselves no one look for them

Miss my lovely parents

This is how it works in my culture. It’s easy; your parents raise you up to be grown man/women. In return, you have to take care of them when the needs you since they helped you when you needed them.

The love of our parents is self-giving, they will do their every best to provide a good growing environment for us. Even when we are growing up and we have our own home, they will still keep worring about us. They have done so , so much for us and it's our responsibilities to take care of them when they get old. For my part, whatever we do for them, its just not enough compared with their sacrifice to us .
Tree prefer calm while wind not subside; Son choose filial while parents died. So if you don't want to suffer this tragedy, then do it now！ Do something for your parents.

Speaking of myself, it should be so beyound any question. It's the problem of responsibility.

The debate on whether grown-up should look after their elderly parents or not. On the one side many argue that Children should look after their parents, not only this, should sacrifice their life for their parents. On the other hand, many people argue that children have their own life , career and family to look after. I am of the opinion that Children should take care of their parents in any condition whether they are rich or poor, whether they are handicapped or well etc.

Parents raise their child, make them educate, learn the good things by the bottom of their and try not to feel them sad in any moment in the entire life. Parents fulfill their obligations by making their heritage educationed and good people and encourage them towards positive ways in the life. Parents earn money to bring their children up a good knowlegde and manners that he could face the difficulties and hardships in the way of life.

Definitly yes. for me, i can't imagine my life without them. after all they look after me when i was young, so i must take a good care of them that i'm a grown-up now.

when people do sacrifice so much for the sake of their children, it is the least to do. In my opinion, it is impossible to repay them for taking care of you whem you where so helpless.

TalkingPoint wrote:Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.

What do YOU think?

Nothing is wrong. It depends on both party and the culture they follow.

Yes, definitely.
As parents are responsible to look after their kids when they are young and small, And they dont know how to live, so the parents teach them how to live.
Similiarly children are responsible to look after their parents when they grow older and we have to treat them the same as if they are kids, because in the elder age they really need our love and care